Healing Way Phoenix Program

Counseling Support for Partners

Betrayed Partners

Partners who have discovered affairs, compulsive use of pornography, or other disturbing sexual behavior

Partners of those struggling with sex or pornography addiction also need support; intimacy betrayal can feel overwhelming, and even traumatizing. The Phoenix Program consists of group support on Tuesday nights for 7 weeks. Also included are 7 individual sessions and 3 couple sessions (if needed). For those with children 11 years old and younger, the Phoenix Program offers a Therapeutic Playgroup providing basic emotion regulation and boundaries education in a fun, age appropriate manner. Additionally, the Phoenix Program prepares partners to participate in a Therapeutic Full Disclosure to help relationships begin to heal from deception and secrets (as recommended by therapist).

“I never felt as lonely and isolated as I did after discovering his acting out. I needed people I could talk to who would not only understand but could help me!”

- Anonymous

From Isolation...

Common to all these behaviors are the lies, deceit, justifications, and denial addicts manifest to protect their "drug". Partners often find they have nowhere to turn, no one to talk to who would understand. While friends and family want to be supportive, sometimes unhelpful advice or judgments are given. Churches may be at a loss as to how to help the partner who's loved one is acting out sexually. Whether the addict gets into recovery or continues in his/her addictive behaviors, partners will need support and guidance in navigating the steps forward in ways that make sense for them.

... to Support & Healing

TARC seeks to support betrayed and hurting partners with our Healing Way Phoenix Program. Participants of the Phoenix program receive partner-specific, trauma-informed therapy to address the specific wounds created by a loved one's sexual acting out. Phoenix includes 7 weeks of group therapy (2 hours per group), weekly individual therapy, and couples therapy if recommended. Phoenix Program participants are invited to enroll children younger than age 12 in our Children's Therapeutic Playgroup. While Phoenix participants are engaged in group therapy, children engage in fun, age-appropriate activities targeting emotional intelligence and relationship skills.

Are you asking yourself?

  • Why haven't I left? Am I naive, weak, or just asking for more?
  • Will I ever feel safe again?
  • Should I have given him/her another chance?
  • When should I be open to having sex again?
  • How is this affecting our kids?
  • Should I just leave?
  • Is sex addiction even a real thing? Or is he/she just a compulsive liar or sociopath?
  • Why should I get therapy? I'm not the one with the problem?
  • I am so alone. Who can I talk to about this stuff?
  • What are boundaries? How do you set them?
  • Will our marriage ever be the same?
  • Will I ever know the whole truth?
  • Can he/she even get better? Or will he/she keep doing this our whole marriage?
  • Why can't I stop yelling at him/her?
  • Will I ever be able to forgive?
  • Am I being too harsh? Mean?
  • Am I being too soft? A doormat?
  • Why do people ignore me even though they know about his acting out? No one ever asks how I'm doing.
  • How can I feel this angry and also still love him/her so much?

We are here to help you answer these questions

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We applaud you for taking an important step toward healing and recovery by visiting our website. The next step is for you to learn how TARC can best support you. During the assessment process, we will thoroughly review an inventory of your thoughts, feelings and associated life choices in order to determine a plan of action that is most beneficial for your recovery.

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